Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Girls Weekend, 1st U/S and A Call for Support

Hope everyone had a great weekend! I know I did! Had my annual girls weekend with some of my college, sorority sisters in Northern California. We all used to live together and since moving out 12 years ago we have maintained this "special weekend a year" tradition. The 9 of us lock ourselves in a cabin in the mountains and just hang out. There is usually a good amount of drinking (this was my first sober year), board games, self reflection and reminiscing about the past year. This weekend is incredibly special to me and I am so glad my cycle allowed me to still go this year. I was terrified I would receive bad news at my beta last week and just be a hot mess this weekend. So glad it didn't work out that way. Plus, I got to tell all my girls we were pregnant in person (they all live 7 hours away from me)!!!! How exciting is that! Of course, I would prefer to have waited to tell anyone till we were a bit father along but I couldn't pass up the opportunity to do it in person. They are keeping it quiet for me for now. The weekend turned out great and as usual... I can't wait for next year.   :) 

Had my first ultrasound today. It is obviously very early, 5 weeks and 2 days, so not much can be seen. We did see one sac. So one baby it is. Adel was a bit disappointed. He really had a feeling that both embryos had taken and we were having twins. He asked the doctor like three times what "happened to the other one"? Lol. Really? Poor guy. I told him "my uterus ate it". I think he just thought our quality of embryos this time was so great that it was done deal or something... I however, know the statistics don't work like that. Twins would have been great from an instant family perspective but I am over the moon for one baby. Another appointment next Monday where they will zoom in to try and see the fetal pole. Hopefully this little guy keeps hanging out in there. 

Lastly, it is with a heavy heart that I ask for some support for a fellow infertile. My friend Laura is losing her baby after a successful FET (frozen embryo transfer following a failed IVF cycle). Last week the baby had a heart beat, was on track and looked great. Yesterday when she went in at 7 weeks and 5 days the baby had no heartbeat. She is scheduled for a D&C tomorrow. She had her pre-op today and took a last look at her baby. My heart is absolutely broken for her. No one should have to go through the pain and suffering that we in this community do. Laura doesn't have a blog of her own but she does read mine... please send some support and prayers her way. 

I am so sorry this has happened Laura. I am thinking of you and your hubby in this difficult and unfair time. I wish there was something I could do to ease your pain. *Big hugs to you*


  1. How exciting to be able to share the news with your sorority sisters. I'm going to keep Laura in my prayers. My heart goes out to her.

  2. Alrighty, so now I'm curious where you were this last weekend! I live in NorCal, and went to school up here too.

    If you're reading this Laura- I'll be thinking about you and sending you as much love and support as I can through the interwebs.

    1. Another NorCal gal!!! Yay!! I went to high school in the huge city of Vacaville (in between Sacramento and San Francisco). Went to college at Sacramento State and spent the weekend at Donner Lake. :)

  3. I'm very sorry for your friend. I know how difficult a m/c can be and I wish her peace and healing.

    I am very happy for you though. One baby is fantastic.

  4. Oh Denise. I'm so sorry for your friend. I'm sending her love during this time.

    I'm so happy to hear your news! A sac in the right location is great news. Grow little one, grow!

  5. how great that you got to tell your girlfriends in person- what a special treat!!!

  6. I am so, so sorry for your friend. Early loss is just as painful as any other. Tell her to be good to herself.

    And a big congrats to you! Glad your weekend was so fun.

  7. Sorry about your friend Laura losing her baby. I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers.

    Singleton gives better odds of a successful pregnancy. Now I'm going to keep guessing as to which sex baby is in there. Good luck!

  8. Please pass on to Laura that my thoughts and prayers go out to her. I will keep her in my heart.

  9. Denise - I saw your blog just minutes before we left for the D&C and I'm so glad. You brought tears to my eyes (and DH too - I showed him) and all of your friends comments. It was overwhelming and I felt so loved and supported by this community. Thank you everyone!!! The procedure went well and the recovery process isn't too bad fortunately. Thank you and I'm so gleeful over your good news. - Laura

  10. Let Laura know she is in my thoughts and prayers and I am sorry for her loss.

    I am glad you got to tell them in person! I am hoping so badly this IUI works so I can tell my grandparents while they are visiting in the end of April. Glad you had an awesome weekend!

  11. Sounds like your weekend was pretty awesome! So glad you were able to do that!

    Sorry about your friend Laura, I'll keep her in my thoughts!

  12. Sounds like a wonderful weekend! Can't wait until your next u/s! :)

    I'm so sorry for your friend Laura. I know all too well what she is going through, as I went through something very similar in January of this year (what a way to start off the new year, eh?). Please give her my regards, and if she is interested, please pass along my blog for her to read. I blogged a lot in the weeks following the news of no heartbeat, and it might bring her some comfort.


  13. Laura I'm so very sorry for your loss. I know there are no words that can ease your pain but know that there are alot of people thinking of and praying for you. Take all the time you can to grieve and try not to set too many expectations for yourself. Just be with your hubby and take care of you.

    Someone once told me to remember that "A bad day is not a relapse and a good day is not recovery." One day at a time. xoxo

  14. Here from LFCA. Congratulations, and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy and baby.

    Hugs to your friend Laura.